> Why Prophet married a young girl? One of typical attack at Islam

[Assad]

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There are millions of anti-islamic websites on the internet which throw many lies against Islam amongst them the most common are , The marriage of Prophet Muhammad PBUH with Ayesha at young age , Islamic verses which they think are very violent and speaks of killing unbelievers and The Canonization of Qur'an by Caliph Uthman (R.A) which they say is corruption of Qur'an.

They use these arguments against Islam , apart from this they have no major allegations so far. They base all the rest of their lies based on the above prinicpal lies. It is important that we should know about the above matters to debate with them in a proper manner.

I wouldnt give any Qur'anic references or any detailed refutations as there are many great articles already written on these topics which can be found on this forum and on many websites which I've listed below as well.

The first thing to understand about the marriage of Prophet Muhammad PBUH with Ayesha R.A is to understand that Ayesha R.A wasnt a kid , a 9year old kid like of today . Mankind has evolved through time and changed its life style. Many examples can even be found today which has became a part of our culture and often go unnoticed. For example A Child living in a City , say New York ( a citykid ) is physically and emotionally much sensitive then a boy of same age living in the Village ( a village kid ). The CityKid will see not be able to climb a tree like a village kid , that doesnt mean that CityKid is not as good as a Village Kid! These are just differences in our lifestyle created by Allah SWT so that we appreciate each other differences.

More then 1400 years back during the time of our Prophet PBUH a 9 years old girl was much more mature and advanced that a pampered 9 years old girl of today. So it wouldnt amaze me that if our Prophet PBUH married ayesha R.A at that age. Also note that the way marriage commensurate in those days were different then of our day. Ayesha R.A was formally given to Prophet PBUH when she was 9 years old but they were married when she attained her puberty. Well then we have no evidence regarding this in the hadith isnt ? Quite reasonable . Why do you expect any lady to tell the public that at this day and time she had a sexual intercourse with her husband??

Ofcourse thats ridiculous to assume or even just to think! Then the Wife of Prophet PBUH was a woman of superior status.

So we should appreciate this difference . Besides this Ayesha R.A had no objection with marraige to Prophet PBUH. She was honored and of course who wouldn't be ?

It amazes me how the attackers of Islam are silent when it comes to Prophets PBUH first marriage to Khadijah R.A .


I'll go about discussing the other attacks of the Atheists/Christians alike in next post :insh:.


For further details of this topic which i recommend you can visit:
IslamOnline.net- Home - Islam, Muslim, News, Shari`ah, Society, Family, Culture, Arts, Science ( Ask About Islam section )



Allah knows best.

[salman]

As-Salamu 'Alaykum bro

First, I'm going to move this to refuting anti-Islamic section. Second, Jazak Allah khair for sharing your ideas. However, there is an very easy way to refute this and I'll share my thoughts but first thing that everyone should make note of is that the only people who are somewhat worthy of making a complain are atheists. The reason is that Christians and Jews have no rights to say anything since their Bible tells us of no limitation or age when a person can marry and consummate the marriage with a girl. Since, there is no limit, then technically speaking a person can consummate the marriage with a baby as old as few seconds. So evangelic and trinitarians first bring an age or some sort of limitation in regard to your marriage from your own bible before you attack the noble character of Messenger of Allah (sall-allahu 'alayhi wa sallam). All the Christians in the past till today have been simply following culture norms which have been changing. So if puberty was the norm then that's what Christians followed; now if 18 years age is the norm in most of the Christian countries then that's what it is followed by Christians. However, there is nothing in the bible, unlike the Qur'an and Sahih Sunnah, which puts strong limits on when a person can get married and when marriage can be consummated with a woman.

Now, coming back to the topic, the Messenger of Allah (sall-allahu 'alayhi wa sallam) drew the marriage contract with our beloved mother, the great shaykha (scholar), 'Aisha (May Allah be pleased with her) when she was six and consummated the marriage when she became a women and she was nine years old at that time. So, an adult male married and consummated the marriage with an adult woman! Are you telling me that you have a problem with two adults marrying each other? If such is the case, then the attackers need to contact a mental doctor! Now, how do we determine, if someones becomes an adult or not. In Islam, we follow the absolute law of the nature, puberty. It doesn't matter how old is the person; once you hit puberty, you're an adult according to the law of the nature. Why does the age have to be 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18 etc to determine adulthood? Who decides this age? Why don't all the cultures/countries agree on one age? Why is it someone 13 years old considered adult according to Spain but not according to USA? How about you first try to work out with the Governments of all the countries to come up with one age and then you can attack the absolute law of the nature!

Notes for fellow Muslims
Even though it is true that in hot weathers people mature faster and in old times the norm was to get married in early age due various reasons i.e. short life span. However, we do not need to relay on this argument. There are much simpler arguments which can be used to defend our position and expose these hate mongols! When did culture norms become part of Islam? Puberty didn't become part of Islam because it was the norm at that time but rather it became part of Islam because it is the absolute law of the nature defined by Allah Ta'ala, which is a consistent way to determine someone's adulthood regardless of person's age. We don't run into these age conflicts problems in different countries.

That's all for now on this subject!

[asma]

this topic really needs to be addressed. Jazaikhair akhee ,waiting for the next article.

[asma]

This is my personal thought though. Allah Subhana Wa Tallah wishes the best for servants. And His most beloved servant is our Prophet Muhammad (sallalaho alaihi wassalam).
And if we give a thought this is the best marriage ever happened. Umm Ul Momineen Ayesha (Radiallaho tallah anha) was protected from the outside world(from every eyes) in the best of the manners, before even she became adult. Before she even reached puberty she was married to Prophet (sallalaho alaihi wassalam) mashallah talah. Isnt this is the most way to protect her reputation as she is the wife of Prophet (sallalho alaihi wassalam) in this world and in the hereafter also. I dont think so anything(any type of marriage) can be better than this. This simply removes the possibility even of endangering her respect and hence strenghtening her status in Islam ;even before getting married to our Prophet (sallalaho alaihi wassalam)
But how will these people understand.when they even dont understand why is hijab to be worn.

Apart from the topic. Who are we to interfere in nature. A person who is an adult develops the requirement in him her naturally. And if the requirement is fullfilled immidiately as it is required logically the possibilities of fitna's and , bad deeds go down to the minimum. as when there is no problem, why will someone create it. Secondly Hijab covers it all.

[Qatada]

asalam alaikum


For generations after generations through out human history people have been marrying at the age of 9 and 10. By 16 they were old enough to lead an entire battalion! (i.e. usama ibn zayd [ibn harithah] - the companion) For thousands and thousands of years human beings did not regard early marriages to be hazardous. If early pregnancies were hazardous, surely the human civilisation across the planet and through out the history should have noticed a pattern. Something like that cannot be missed out or ignored for thousands upon thousands of years so easily.

On the other hand contemporary medicine is known to have changed its stance on various issues several times. In the 70s the mothers in England were being told NOT to breastfeed. And now, women who do not breastfeed are looked down on.

[Qatada]

asalam alaikum again


i heard theres a hadith in abi dawud where Aisha herself mentions that a marriage wasn't consummated by arabs until only after a females menses - her menses signifying her adulthood.

Infact, the logic of these people is amazing because they themselves accuse 13yr olds, or 9yr olds of being children. Yet they themselves know that these 'children' are capable of having sex and even having children!


How is it possible that someone can have children and be a child? Their logic is confusing and they themselves throughout the different countries in the US, UK and Europe can't agree on a common age for adulthood. Try doing a little bit of research on this, but they differ - ranging from 13 till 18 - So does this mean that having sex in the Netherlands at 15 is peadophilia in the UK? Will anyone who follows the law of one nation be counted as a peadophile in another? Who's truly right?

The answers simple in Islam - if you're able to fulfill the duties of marriage, and are capable of it - then you can get married. However, if it will be harmful [and no-one can bring one shred of evidence that Aa'isha got harmed by her marriage, rather she benefited herself and billions of others in Islam (being in the top 5 narrators of ahadith), aswell as advancing in medicine studies] - which shows that she was perfectly normal and said nothing but good about the Prophet. Whereas a person abused would not praise their abuser willingly.



A 9yr old with a child:



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Here's some interesting links:

http://www.islamic-awareness.org/Polemics/aishah.html

http://www.islamicboard.com/587743-post146.html
http://www.islamicboard.com/refutati...phet-pbuh.html

http://www.answering-christianity.co...mshamoun26.htm




If someone said that a 9yr old isn't capable of having children or sex;

I would quote the following fatwa from Shaykh 'Abdul-'Azîz ibn Ahmad Ad-Durayhim:

As for the possible negative consequences of a man of such a mature age marrying such a young girl, it is patently obvious. The discrepancies in their capabilities, both physically and mentally, could bring about serious differences between the two of them that could lead to the failure of the marriage. This is something that has been seen and is well understood.

Therefore, I would not recommend such a marriage nor would I encourage it.

Moreover, with respect to what we have said about the legal validity of such a marriage, that refers to the validity of the contract itself. As for the effects of the marriage - such as privacy, intimacy and sexual relations - that is another matter entirely. Such things are permitted only if the girl is able to handle such a relationship without any harm whatsoever coming to. Otherwise, it is prohibited. This is because the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "There shall be no harm nor the causing of harm."

It can also be seen in the very conduct of the Prophet (peace be upon him). He did not consummate his marriage with 'A’ishah for a number of years on account of her young age.

And from the fatwâ committee supervised by Shaykh 'Abdul-Wahhâb At-Turayrî we note:

The lawfulness of consummating a marriage at such an age is contingent on the maturity of the girl and that no harm would come to her.

So if any harm would come from it, then it is unlawful i.e. harâm.


Q: So why didn't Islam prohibit such practices that are harmful?

Actually, it did. It would be impossible for Islam to have an explicit prohibition on every dangerous behavior from jumping off a scyscraper to smoking, so Islam has provided a single broad injunction to cover all instances of harm:

The Prophet Muhammad pbuh said,

لا ضرر ولا ضر

"There is to be no harming, nor reciprocating of harm." (Musnad Ahmad, authenticated by Al-Albânî)

And Allah knows best.

[Qatada]

i've also read this lately:

Evidence suggests that few poeple in prehistoric times lived much
beyond the age of 18 yrs. however by the year 600 (CE - christian era) romans could expect
to live to be about 30. [this was the century the Messenger of Allah married Aa'isha, showing that the death rate was early for people during this time period - so it wouldn't be surprising people would get married early and in hot climate countries (such as africa, arabia_ even mature early and be fit enough for marriage - since the death rate too was early. )

in briton during the 1500 most people lived to be about 30, year 1600 - to about the age of 34,
year 1800 - average age of 39, 20th century - 50 - 70 years. (those with a healthy life style)

(Health and medicine wayland library of science and technology. Page 7) Author: brenda walpole. isbn [book number] 0750200170

[Assad]

Thats agreeable . Thats one of valid evidence however during an debate one may argue that Prophet himself lived longer then 40 and so did people of his time !

[Assad]

Often non muslims say that Prophet PBUH was pervert and pedophile. If that was true and that was the reason of the marriage with Ayesha RA then why didnt Muhammad PBUH promoted an open society ? Why did he had strict rules of guarding chastity of women ?

After all a person who posses those above mentioned qualities would love to have an open society like the west?

Ofcourse , The Truth is that NO ONE in the history as as Noble as the Prophet PBUH and this is a big slap on non muslims face. The bibical prophets had tonnes of wives and they also had insects .

Prophets marriage with Ayesha was a perfect marriage , the sign of love which cross all boundaries BUT a big BUT not the way love is crossing its boundaries nowdays ;)

Good luck

[Qatada]

Originally Posted by Acid

Thats agreeable . Thats one of valid evidence however during an debate one may argue that Prophet himself lived longer then 40 and so did people of his time !

:wasalam:


that can be agreed upon, but since people matured at an early age, and since Aisha was fit for it - she never even showed any negative symptoms at all - whether that was physical, psychological, emotional [infact this marriage was so much greater for her (making her of the most knowledgable women in our rich Islamic history, and she even excelled in medicine, teaching etc. at her times.] these people may make assumptions against Aisha's well being, but they have no proof whatsoever for what they say. And assumption is not used as an evidence for us in our religion, nor do they claim to accept it as a proof for their arguments.