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[Haqekka']

How to start to explain to a new muslimah the prohibition about plucking eye-brows?
She is among muslims wich do lots of bid'aa...
I can't just tell her all hadeeths I know...help!

She is asking why white color is for men only,and I don't know hadeets about it.....

[Aayah]

Wa alykom asalam

What do you mean sister by white colors for men only?

[Haqekka']

Q. What is the desirable colour for women to wear?
A.Any color other then white.

Q.What is the desirable colour for men to wear?
A.White.

I am looking for eye-brows good material...I don't know how to start with that topic :(

[Aayah]

^Sheikh Ibn Baz RahimahuAllah said that the white color is for men and the women are not allowed to wear it because they will be considered as imitating men.

Now I remember reading a fatwa about that but can't remember where exactly, that if the country you are living in is limiting the white to men, then its not allowed for women to wear it i.e: Arabian Gulf region like this.
While in some other countries where men are not stuck to a certain color then its okay to wear the white, we can take west countries as an example while the majority of men wear Jeans and such.

As for the desirable color for men, I don't really know. Maybe someone else can provide us with any hadeeth preferring a certain color for men. I wonder if men were stuck to a certain color at the time of the prophet

Keep in mind that wearing the white for women is only when they are outside their home, you can wear any color you want if you are at your home.

As for the eyebrow issue. Maybe you can tell her about the hadeeth that forbding plucking them and tell her that its changing the creation of Allah....I am not really helpful on that

[salman]

The colouring and style of clothes depends on the culture and weather. In some Muslim countries, white for men and black for women is a predominant colour; so, if a woman wears other colour outside (i.e., pink) it is disliked and draws more attention but this is not the case in western countries. The following fatawa should clear it up, insha'Allah:

Question: Are there any colours which a muslim/muslimah cannot wear eg red garments

Answer: Praise be to Allaah.

Before we answer this question we should note an important point, which is that the basic principle regarding colours of clothes for men and women is that all colours are permissible except where there is a shar’i text forbidding a certain colour for men or women. There are shar’i texts which encourage the wearing of certain colours and forbid the wearing of other colours, such as the following:

Black: Umm Khaalid bint Khaalid said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was brought some clothes, among which was a small black khameesah [garment]. He said, ‘Who do you think we should give this to?’ The people remained silent. Then he said, ‘Bring me Umm Khaalid,’ and she was carried to him. He took the khameesah in his hand and put it on her, and said, ‘May you live long and wear it out.’ There was a green or yellow mark on it, and he said, ‘O Umm Khaalid, this is sanaah (good),’ and sanaah is an Abyssinian word.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari). Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “I saw the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) on the day of the Conquest of Makkah, wearing a black turban.” (Reported by Muslim). ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “I made a black burdah (cloak) for the Messenger of Allaah ( ) peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and he wore it, but when he sweated in it he detected the smell of wool on it, so he took it off, because he used to like pleasant smells.” (Reported by Abu Dawood. Al-Haakim (4/188) said: it is saheeh according to the conditions of the two shaykhs. Al-Dhahabi agreed with him. Shaykh al-Albaani said in al-Saheehah (5/168, no. 2136): It is as they said. Abu Dawood named a chapter in his Sunan “Bab fi’l-Suwaad (chapter on black clothes)”. The author of ‘Awn al-Ma’bood (11/126) said: The hadeeth indicates that it is permissible to wear black and that there is nothing makrooh in doing so).

Black is permissible for both men and women alike. One of the false innovations (bid’ah) connected to this colour is the practice of deliberately wearing black at times of bereavement, which also involves imitating the Christians. Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen said (Fataawa Islamiyah, 3/313): “Wearing black at times of bereavement is a false symbol that has no basis. At times of bereavement people should do what is commanded in Islam, which is to say ‘Innaa Lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raaji’oon. Allaahumma ajirni fi museebati wa’khluf li khayran minhaa (Truly! To Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return. O Allaah, reward me for my calamity and compensate me with something better than it).’ If a person says this with faith and the hope of reward, Allaah will reward him for that and will replace what he has lost with something better.” He also said: “Allocating certain clothes for mourning is an act of bid’ah (innovation) in our opinion, and because it could indicate that a person is discontent with the decree of Allaah.”

White: Abu Dharr (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “I came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and he was wearing a white garment and was asleep. I came back to him (later), and he had woken up…” (Reported by al-Bukhaari in his Saheeh, in a chapter he called Baab al-Thiyaab al-Beed (Chapter on white clothes)). Al-Bukhaari reported that Sa’d said: “I saw on the left of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and on his right two men wearing white clothes on the day of Uhud. I never saw them before or since.” These two men were Jibreel and Mikaa’eel, as al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar mentioned in al-Fath (10/295). White is a colour recommended (mustahabb) for the living to wear and for the dead to be shrouded in, as was stated in the hadeeth narrated by Ibn ‘Abbaas, who said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Wear your white clothes, for they are the best of your clothes, and shroud your dead in them.’” (Reported by Abu Dawood and al-Tirmidhi; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Ahkaam al-Janaa’iz (p. 82)). White is also the preferred colour for men’s ihraam (special garments for Hajj), which consists of an izaar (lower garment) and a rida’ (upper garment).

Green: Abu Ramthah said: “I saw the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wearing two green garments.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, who said, this is a ghareeb hasan hadeeth, and by al-Nisaa’i, 5224).

Red: It was reported that wearing pure red is forbidden for men, but not for women, because of the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade mafdam” (reported by Imaam Ahmad and Ibn Maajah, 3591). Mafdam is something that is filled with red safflower dye. According to the commentary of al-Sindi on Sunan al-Nisaa’i, mafdam is something that is filled with red. It was reported that if ‘Umar saw a man wearing a garment dyed red with safflower, he would pull him aside and say, “Leave this for the women.” (Reported by al-Tabari).

‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr said: “A man who was wearing two red garments passed by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and greeted him with salaam, but the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not respond.” (Reported by Abu Dawood and al-Tirmidhi, and classed as hasan by al-Bazzaar, who said: we know it only through this isnaad, which includes Abu Yahya al-Qattaat, who is a disputed figure).

There were several suggestions as to why men are forbidden to wear red, including the following:

because it is the dress of the kuffaar

because it is the adornment of women, so forbidding it is a way of discouraging the imitation of women

because it is vanity and does not befit a decent man to wear it

The prohibition applies only to garments that are dyed completely red. Garments that contain another colour such as white, black, etc. are not forbidden. This is how the ahaadeeth that speak about the red hullah should be interpreted, such as the hadeeth of al-Bara’ (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was of average height. I saw him wearing a red hullah, and I have never seen anything better than it.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5400). The Yemeni hullah usually has stripes of red and another colour, it is not pure red.

Ibn al-Qayyim, may Allaah have mercy on him, said: “The clothing (of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)): Abu’l-Waleed told us Shu’bah told us from Abu Ishaaq who heard al-Bara’ (may Allaah be pleased with him) saying: ‘The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was of average height. I saw him wearing a red hullah, and I have never seen anything better than it.’ The hullah consists of an izaar and a rida’ (lower and upper garments)… It is a mistake to think that it was pure red and not mixed with any other colour. The red hullah is two Yemeni garments woven with red and black stripes like all the other Yemeni garments… But pure red is emphatically forbidden. In Saheeh al-Bukhaari it is stated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade red saddlecloths (or blankets) … With regard to red garments in general and red broadcloth, etc., the issue is still under discussion, but it is very disliked (makrooh).” (Zaad al-Ma’aad, 1/139). And Allaah knows best.

Colours which are encouraged (mustahabb), disliked (makrooh) and forbidden (haraam) in men’s and women’s clothing

One may also wanna read these beneficial fatawas:

Is wearing jeans imitating the kuffaar?
Men’s dress code
What are the garments of the kuffaar that we are forbidden to wear?

[Haqekka']

Jazzak Allahu khayran Salman!
My answer is posted and insha'Alla our new sister benefit from it!

Jazzak sis Ayah!

I have one Q: Is it OK not to celebrate,but to do greetings for Hijrah New Year?

[Anwaar]

I might be late but oh well...

About plucking the eye-brows tell the sister that The prophet Muhammad(Saw) cursed those that pluck their eye-brows. Ask her does she want to be of those women that the prophet has cursed?

It says in Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daaimah:It is not permissible to remove the hair of the eyebrows because this is the plucking for which the Messenger of Allah (S.A.W) cursed those who do it,and it is a kind of changing the creation of Allah, which is the action of the Shaytaan.

[Haqekka']

Originally Posted by Anwaar

I might be late but oh well...

About plucking the eye-brows tell the sister that The prophet Muhammad(Saw) cursed those that pluck their eye-brows. Ask her does she want to be of those women that the prophet has cursed?

It is late :) but may Allah bless you and give you best reward!
The sister read it but did not post (sad) In the end I told her to think what she wants and why she get up 5 am to pray,stay hungry and thirsty all month and finally get into Hell bcos of few hairs !?

I hope I was not little........hm,like usually I am (shy)

She PM me about something her family (Pakistanis)do:they told her to cover her hair when hear Azan at home-bcos includes the name of Allah SUT,and the man have to put hats on (!?)...one said there is alhadeeth about it and I ask to tell me where to find it ...the family find it strange I guess,I mean to ask so much :))
Anybody can tell something about this?

[salman]

Originally Posted by Haqekka'

The sister read it but did not post (sad) In the end I told her to think what she wants and why she get up 5 am to pray,stay hungry and thirsty all month and finally get into Hell bcos of few hairs !?

sister, may Allah persevere you, this is a very wrong statement. We don't say that fullan is going to hell or fullan is not unless they were committing kufr or doing no good deeds. Allah knows best about people's affairs and their final destination. Do we know that we will be saved from hell because we are doing a sin which other person is doing? When correcting our brothers and sisters, who are committing a sin, then we remind them in a gentle manner and not forget that we are also human beings who commit sins. We tell them they are being disobedient to Allah and if they can give up other sins then they can also do the same for this sin.

The Messenger of Allah (sal-allahu alayhi wa sallam) said: "there is not a believing slave except he has a sin that he returns to time after time or he is constantly/consistently doing it until he leaves this duniya. (The fact of matter is) the believer is trialed and tested; he (consistently) repents and then he forgets. (However) when he is reminded, he remembers".

Originally Posted by Haqekka'

She PM me about something her family (Pakistanis)do:they told her to cover her hair when hear Azan at home-bcos includes the name of Allah SUT,and the man have to put hats on (!?)

this is very common in our culture and they do it out of respect. It is very strange that parents won't care if their daughter goes out of the house with no proper hijab but when they hear the athan they are strict about this issue. It has much to do with borrowing certain type of qualities from hindu culture and showing some sort of "respect" and less to do what deen al-Islam.

As far I know, there is no hadith about it that we have to do this and Allah knows best

Originally Posted by Haqekka'

the family find it strange I guess,I mean to ask so much :))

sister, this is very common in our (Pakistani) culture because elders don't like and considers as disrespectful if the younger question them about why they do certain things. Everyone has to follow the local mullas and whatever they say even if they are contradicting the Shari'ah.

Originally Posted by Haqekka'

Anybody can tell something about this?

I hope the above helps, insha'Allah

[salman]

Originally Posted by Haqekka'

I have one Q: Is it OK not to celebrate,but to do greetings for Hijrah New Year?

sister, I advice you that if you have a new question which is not related to subject, for example this one, then open a new topic. It will make it easier for others to find an answer if they have a similar question.

insha'Allah, the following will help:

Question: What is the ruling on offering congratulations on the occasion of the Hijri new year and saying “Kull ‘aam wa antum bi khayr” or praying for blessing, or sending a card with best wishes for blessings in the new year?

Answer: Praise be to Allaah.

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: What is the ruling on congratulating people on the occasion of the Hijri new year, and how should one reply to a person who offers congratulations?

He replied:

If someone offers you congratulations, then respond to him, but do not initiate such greetings. This is the correct view concerning this matter. So if a person says to you, for example, “Happy New Year”, then you can say, “May Allaah make it a good and blessed year for you.” But you should not initiate such a greeting, because I do not know of any report that the salaf [early generations of Islam] congratulated one another on the occasion of the new year, rather the salaf did not regard the first of Muharram as the first day of the new year until the caliphate of ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may Allaah be pleased with him.

Shaykh ‘Abd al-Kareem al-Khudayr said concerning offering congratulations on the occasion of the hijri new year:

Praying for another Muslim in general terms, in phrases that are not meant as a kind of ritual on special occasions such as Eid, is acceptable, especially if what is meant by this greeting is friendship and to show a friendly face to one’s fellow Muslim. Imaam Ahmad (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “I do not initiate the greeting but if someone greets me I return the greeting, because responding to the greeting is obligatory. But being the first to offer congratulations is neither Sunnah nor forbidden.

Ruling on offering congratulations at the beginning of the Hijri year

and Allah knows best